Almost one in six American couples experiences trouble conceiving, even after 12 months of trying. Sometimes this is due to the male partner, who has, for instance, low sperm production or blockages. In this case, the solution might be to find a donor to provide the sperm instead, in order to successfully become pregnant. As for lesbian couples and single women who don’t have a male partner, the methods for finding a donor are the same.
Accepting the fact that the sperm being used comes from someone else
As with any fertility problems, seeking help in order to have a baby can be a tough decision. Not being genetically related to the donor-conceived child and not being able to provide gametes can be a difficult pill for the dad-to-be to swallow. It’s important to take the time to ensure that the idea of using someone else’s semen is fully accepted by both the male and the female partner. Consulting a therapist to further discuss this question can be really helpful.
Where to look for a sperm donor?
These days, there are a number of different ways to find a sperm donor. Sperm banks offer a great choice of anonymous and non-anonymous donors that have been thoroughly screened. You can browse profiles and make your choice according to several criteria, such as race, ethnicity, height and weight, education and profession, eye and hair color as well as personality.
However, due to high demand, a new way of finding sperm donors has recently become popular: you can now look for a donor on a dedicated website. The concept of these sites is to connect donors and individuals or couples who wish to have a baby, but because of fertility issues or other personal reasons, are unable to do so. Online, they have the possibility of reading through the different profiles and then chatting together, to ask all of the important questions that can help them to make an informed decision. It’s also possible to arrange a face-to-face meeting, to get to know each other a little bit better.
This solution allows those wishing to become parents to save money while, at the same time, giving them the opportunity to carefully select their donor according to their own conditions. However, the intended parents must ensure that their donor has undergone all the medical tests required, so as to avoid any risks.
Another option is to ask a relative, for instance, a friend, to donate his sperm. This way, the couple has the benefit of being personally acquainted with the person that will be genetically related to their future daughter or son.
Once they have finally chosen their donor and collected the semen, it’s time to complete the process. The couple or the single woman can opt to have the insemination procedure performed in a fertility clinic by a medical professional. This is considered to be the safest choice.
The future parents might however prefer to remain at home and perform the insemination themselves using a home insemination kit. This can be bought on the internet and it contains everything needed, from the ovulation test to the syringe and the sterilized cups that will be used to receive the semen.
Sometimes, even after several attempts, pregnancy still doesn’t occur. At this point, it’s advisable to consult a specialist and consider all of the options available. In vitro fertilization – a method that involves fertilizing the egg with sperm in a lab, and then implanting the embryo into the woman’s womb – may be recommended if artificial insemination doesn’t work, or when donated eggs are needed.
Conceiving while experiencing fertility issues can often be an arduous process, both mentally as well as physically, particularly for the mom-to-be who must endure the ovarian stimulation and insemination procedure. However, the joy of eventually giving birth to a little one means that this extra effort is always worth it in the end.