My husband and I met when I was 19 years old. We were friends at first and I enjoyed doing things together with him. He always made me feel like anything was possible, and so I started to feel more attracted to him. Growing up I didn’t really feel like I had very many people there for me, a former foster child it was only after we welcomed our first daughter into the world did I know what unconditional love was.
My husband Del and I have now been together for 10 years, and I’m not going to say the last ten years have been easy by any means but I do know a few things. You have to find someone who is willing to help you unpack any hurt and who is willing to stand by you on good days and bad. It’s so easy to give up on things but what I can say about our marriage is that we have never given up. I have a husband who is willing to help me unpack all the hurt in my past and each day helps me build on the good we have in our life. We now have three beautiful daughters and one of my greatest joys is watching my husband as a father.
I often think how different my life would be if I would have never met my husband. Shortly after meeting him I told him abut wanting to go to college so he held my hand and made it happen, he’s made all of the things I’ve wanted seem possible. I think how funny it is that I met someone who has so greatly touched my life and I get to rise with the sun next to him and our daughters each and every day.I asked my Grandmother the year before she died how her marriage lasted so long and she told me her secret was choosing love. Even on the days when it’s hardest you have to chose love. I know how hard that is in our day to day rush of life but I do know that when I chose to work on strengthening my marriage I am choosing love.
5 Tips To Stregnthen Your Marriage
- Respect One Another – Respect is especially important to men so eve if you disagree on something you have to respect one another. Everyone makes mistakes so respect one another even if one person makes a choice the other one doesn’t like.
- Mistakes – Yes, you knew this was coming. Mistakes happen, forgive often. Forgive for everyday annoiances and even bigger mistakes. Harboring those bad feelings will lead to resentment.
- Communicate – This one I admit is harder for me than my husband but it’s something I am working on. Over communicate with your partner, often it’s as simple as someone else not knowing our expectations.
- Negativity – Don’t talk negatively about one another to others. This will lead to resentment and miscommunication. It’s important to your spouse that you speak to one another about how you feel.
- Schedule Date Nights – Especially if you have kids regular date nights are important for all couples. Stay indoors and watch a movie, go to dinner, take a class, do something together and without the kiddos.
As parents we get so busy with our own schedules and our family life. It’s important that you do spend time together. One way I like to spend time with my husband is going to see movies. It’s something we both like doing and so we can’t wait to see the movie out February 5th the new Nicholas Sparks movie, The Choice.
This movie is all about making difficult choices of the heart to find your destiny and perfect match. The main characters in this are first brought together due to an encounter between their dogs! Their adorable pets play an important (and adorable) role in the story and I know as dog lovers, my husband and I are really going to enjoy this movie.
What are your favorite date night ideas?
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