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What’s Everyone Staring At?

Last night my husband and I went out. It took me almost two hours to fully do my hair, with it being so long it’s quite the process and it needs a ton of hair products to get right. My husband actually walked into our bathroom while I was getting ready and said “Woah, it smells like the 80’s in here!” I worked all day Saturday on clearing out my closet and getting rid of all the clothes that were too big. You’d be amazed that a year after having a baby I still had my maternity stuff hanging up!!

After realizing that none of my current stuff fit I tried on a bunch of stuff I had bought pre Mia’s pregnancy and was shocked that it fit and actually looked good. I found this white jacket which I had found and loved but never quite fit right, and it fit perfectly! ย Then I threw on a new pair of wedges and did met my husband downstairs.

He took one look at me and said – you look like a different person.

kristin ruiz

I decided to go take a peak in the mirror before leaving the house and my husband and I headed downtown for dinner and to see Bill Maher’s stand up show. As we parked and started heading towards the restaurant we walked past some seemingly nice young ladies. I could see them staring me up and down as we walked past. Not in a bad way or anything just looking at us. As we went on through the night people continued to look at us everywhere we went.

Having been the girl who has been overweight for years I’m not used to people looking at me. Usually I’m the mom with her long hair pulled back who’s busy with my three kiddos and hiding out in the back of the room. I kept asking my husband “what is everyone staring at?” and as he assured me there wasn’t a large booger on the forehead and I started realizing – I guess I just don’t see what others see. I still feel like the drab mom who almost never dresses up but to be honest I don’t want to her anymore. I made the choice to say goodbye to her long ago and never look back. I realize now more than ever how I just want to be happy. I guess if being happy and being beautiful makes people stare then so be it.ย  I must admit my husband and I make a great couple!ย 

I’m living in the best years of my life and I’m going to enjoy it!ย 


  1. Richard Hicks on June 29, 2013 at 1:16 pm

    you look great in the photo above. About people staring….you can’t stop it…just ignore it and go on about your tasks

  2. Tammy S on June 26, 2013 at 3:03 pm

    You look fantastic! Good for you for liking who you are! That is what truly shines through in my opinion. Let them stare all they want, they are looking at a beautiful confident woman.

  3. Karissa on June 25, 2013 at 4:52 pm

    You are so pretty Kristin! I am so glad you found that moment! Your hair looks amazing. I wish mine would curl.. even just a little. I need to spend a few extra minutes on my looks soon, you’ve motivated me. BTW – your hubby reminds me of mine, he would TOTALLY say something like “It smells like 80s in here!”

  4. Janet W. on June 25, 2013 at 2:41 am

    You do look beautiful!! Let them stare!

  5. jamie braun@gmail.com on June 24, 2013 at 9:57 pm

    beautiful! let them stare!

  6. Poppy on June 24, 2013 at 5:27 pm

    I think your picture is stunning…But having met you many times with your kids in tow and your hair pulled back I would say you are far from drab! Way to work it though, you are gorgeous ๐Ÿ™‚

    • Kristin on June 24, 2013 at 8:30 pm

      Oh thank you for such kind words!! ๐Ÿ™‚

  7. courtney on June 24, 2013 at 4:58 pm

    You look absolutely fabulous and totally jealous of your gorgeous hair! I love dressing up and it really does make ya feel great doesn’t it? ๐Ÿ™‚

  8. Brandy Nelson on June 24, 2013 at 4:26 pm

    AMEN!! And I am SO glad you had that moment…Or epiphany….Or whatever it was…lol….I experience the same thing when Dan and I go out, but I have to admit, my self-esteem is still so damaged that I am convinced there is a booger on my forehead. Just Saturday, several people told Dan he has the coolest wife ever, and that I am beautiful. Sadly, I didn’t, and don’t, believe it. You’re an inspiration, Kristin, and I sincerely hope that one day I will have your self-esteem! <3 you, Pretty Lady!

  9. rebecca norton on June 24, 2013 at 3:40 pm

    I so no that feeling of having no time to do your hair (i have long hair too) and with the kids its always so mush easier just to have it up or just let it air dry.

    • Kristin on June 24, 2013 at 3:43 pm

      I’m trying to do it more often, you should too! ๐Ÿ™‚