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Public Schools & Private Schools

I mentioned before that I was taking my 5 and a half year old out of her private school. We made the switch this week. At first I felt really bad about it, I second guessed my decisions and shed tears over the guilt I felt. Was private school better for her than public school?

So we gave it a try, you never know until you try right? Kaila had a wonderful first few days, she was assigned a table and shown around the school. Granted she was a little scared that first day she handled it extremely well. She put both feet forward and gave it all she had. Immediately they were painting, and much to her surprise her letter was the same this week. She celebrated Chinese New Year and ate with chop sticks.

There plenty of additional writing projects. She likes that there is story time in the library before school and that they visit their “buddy class”, the other Kindergarten class. The other girls in her class were eager to show her how things are done, and she quickly found friends and played out on the playground.

I didn’t realize before what her private school was lacking. They supplemented socializing with church activities. Our family didn’t exactly fit in, we didn’t know where to stand. Not a full time attending member of the church Kaila lacked the additional social aspects of school. She lacked learning about the world and yet learned about the Lord. She ran around in the gym at her private school but lacked a playground and windows, and exploring the school. She was given discipline and regiment at private school and lacked making her own choices.

I can say that in the past 81 days at private school she came so far. Almost completely done with speech therapy, able to count to 100, beginning to read, doing basic math, and memorized 20 pieces of scripture. I’ve come to find out that in public school there’s a lot to learn. It moves fast, and the work they are doing is far beyond what Kaila was doing before. We’re making some adjustments and preparing for her weekly homework.

Now I ask myself can she keep up with public school and it not the other way around?  Here I thought she might possibly lack an education yet come to realize she is not, she in fact was lacking. I believe after experiencing both that Kaila is just fine where she is at. I know it will make her a better person, and it better fits our family as a whole. And she wants you to know, she has to share her crayons.

But she’s okay with that.


  1. Didi on February 7, 2011 at 8:44 am

    Glad to hear Kaila is adjusting to public schools. Both my kids Sienna 7 1/2 and Matthew 5 go to public school. I love the school we go to. I am sure you made the right choice.

  2. Auntie Mea on February 6, 2011 at 1:57 pm

    Speaking as one who spent my first 8 years in a private Catholic school and then 4 at a public high school, I have good and bad things to say about both. In the private school we had larger classes so there wasn’t as much one on one time. There was only one teacher per grade so if your particular grade had 45 students they all had the same teacher. Social activities and fiels trips were pretty much non-existent. I was always jealous of my public school friends who got to go on all those field trips. Most of my teachers were nuns. Second, fourth, and seventh grade I had what they called a “lay” teacher. Boy/girl interaction was not encouraged. In fact I remember one year the boys sat on one side of the room and the girls the other. Consequently when I got to public school I was very shy and didn’t really feel comfortable talking to a boy until I was in college.
    The good things were that I got a solid belief in God that remains with me today. Despite the fact that I don’t attend Mass regularly and haven’t for several years I still believe in Him and pray often. Even though I complained about having to wear a uniform back then, I now see the value in them. What with the emphasis on designer clothes these days the uniform did away with that. Also it saved my parents alot of money on clothes.
    Of course I went to private school from 1956-1964 and from what I understand things are different now.
    Kaila is such a sweetheart and also very smart, so I’m sure she’ll do well no matter what school she goes to!

  3. Anne Taylor on February 6, 2011 at 1:41 pm

    Sounds like she’s made the transition with ease! I’m so happy for her and for you! My kids were all educated in public schools and they turned out fine and dandy!

  4. Susan H. on February 5, 2011 at 11:25 am

    I am so glad to hear that your daughter is doing well in public school! As I wrote on your original post, I’m a big advocate of public schools after attending private schools as a child. Of course, there are good and bad experiences in both public and private schools, and not all families benefit from the same choices, but I’m glad to know that you found what works for your family!

  5. Jessica on February 5, 2011 at 2:35 am

    So glad to read your post as I experienced the same thing this past year. I was a firm believer in having my daughter in a private Christian school. We sacrificed for 2 years to send her to it, but she was not learning at the same level as the other kids. Since it was private we’d have to pay for her tutoring. It just got to be too much for us with the tuition, tutoring, books fee, uniform, registration, transportation, school maintenance fee basically every fee under the sun and after all the money spent she was not progressing and learning. I struggled with the decision to take her out but we put her in the local public school and it worked wonders for her. She is actually more social and learning and gets the help she needs. We attend Church weekly so she can socialize with other Christian children. Her school is like Kaila’s in that they progress very fast and tons of Homework.
    Good Luck with it. I’m sure it will work just fine jsut stay involved.