Growing up in foster care I was always told that college wasn’t for me. I look back now and always knew that college was my way forward. Growing up I loved school and I had dreams of being a marine biologist. I give credit to my fourth grade teacher Mrs. Maloney for making the oceans come alive in her classroom. It was her who showed me how exciting learning can be and that gave me a love for creativity and education. My father died the following year and life became less about a love for learning and more about other things.
Shortly after high school I moved to Oregon to snowboard and go to college. I had no idea how I would get to college since I had no guidance to get me there but that was my dream and I was following them! Sure enough the following year it happened.
It happened because one night while hanging with friends I met him, you know…..the one. He walked into my apartment with a friend and his long hair and dark eyes immediately caught my attention. I got lost in stories of growing up overseas in places I had only read about in books. His kind nature quickly pulled me in and when I told him about my dream to go to college he said “You can do it!”.
The thing about following your dreams is something we both lived by. Over the next year I found myself learning again and seeing the world outside of my own. Sometimes your dreams come true and you realize those dreams also have ten tiny fingers and toes because the following year we were holding her in our arms.
See my husband and I were both raised by family. His Aunt and Grandmother proudly raised an intelligent young man and my Aunt and Uncle. Each of us wanted a real family of our own and after Kai was born we knew we were where we were supposed to be.
Starting out in life can be an incredible struggle. Whether you finally make it to college or make other choices in life, having someone there to support you is a real key to success. I never gave up on my dream to go to college and neither did he. When I started an online journal to document our child’s life he asked what he could do to help me. When I struggled in school, he tutored me. When I needed a break from the baby even after working all day and going to school, he took her.
My dream was to go to college and only after she was born did I also realize that my dream was also to have a family. We had so many firsts, my first car. Our first home.
Our ordinary life now consists of our family of five with the birth of two more daughters. That simple journal to document our child’s life so that she would always know how we feel about her turned into what you see here today. Our journey isn’t over yet and we’re just starting out.
There’s always a new stage to life and as we move into our next stage I know we will be together.
All because he said “You can do it!” and together we said “Yes we do.”.
What are some of your first and who was there with you on your journey?
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